I Might Not Have Made It…

It could have been very different. I may not have made it this far. The pull of addiction beckoned but even in the depths of my confusion, despair, and darkness I knew deep down it was not for me – not this time anyway… I didn’t have the understanding or later the words to express it but there was something keeping me going.

Beneath my wounding, conditioning and unhelpful habits resides a part of me with great wisdom, my Wise Woman. Untarnished by the ups and downs of life she is a quiet, calm, knowing guide. When I listen to her things go well. I had forgotten this part of me existed but every now and again she would try and make herself known. For decades my mind overrode her. She didn’t give up.

I found her through my yoga practice, walking in nature, in the pauses between thinking, planning, judging, and zoning out. She led me well and here I am sharing with you. Never in a million years did I think this would happen!

You came from nothing into physical form helpless and reliant on others. To navigate life, you developed strategies and behaviours to ensure that you survive, are fed, loved, or shielded from painful feelings and memories. This is when you start of the disconnect from your inner wisdom.

These parts or programmes which are vital to you as a child haven’t been updated. They get in the way of you living life fully as an adult. Next time you get upset or triggered notice your reaction, what age comes to mind? Perhaps you struggle for words or there are no words – possibly linked to preverbal events.

You may have no conscious memory as to why your programmes developed. There may be a transgenerational link. Yet everything is stored within your body. It holds your pain and the answers you are seeking.

“Trauma comes back as a reaction, not a memory”
Bessel Van Der Kokk

Your body is designed to heal and return to homeostasis. Pain, both physical and emotional, signals something is wrong. Life continues to bring you opportunities to process unfinished business. Events may seem unlinked, unfortunate, coincidental or there may be patterns – ongoing issues with romantic relationships, money, self-worth etc. All are opportunities to heal and be authentically you – not a punishment. The body is signalling it is time to change course. It is exhausting holding onto your wounding and story. I know, I tried extremely hard. Each release felt like it created a new me, lighter, brighter, and happier.

If I can do it you can too! 

Yoga in its fullest sense was my way out of these unhelpful repeating events. Every time I came onto my mat I was guided to connect with my body, then my breath and notice – I discovered my Wise Woman. She is my guide. Our relationship continued to deepen as I expanded my practice with healing and development tools. My trust built. I now trust her above everything. It is my joy and honour to guide you, and others, to connect with your inner wisdom.

Here’s how

Start with one step, something that is manageable and celebrate starting. Before you were oblivious. Now you are aware AND have taken a step towards your goal. It takes as long as it takes. There is no set route or technique. You can take the scenic route or go directly, navigating obstacles, getting stuck in dead ends – it doesn’t matter. I have done all and eventually moved on. Sometimes I would charge ahead, think I was complete only to find something else to consider. All the while I feel better, more alive and my relationships are easier. My sense is that this is a life-long practice, and it feels good. This is my life purpose. To find me and live authentically.

I will guide and support you.

What is your next step? Would group or private sessions best help you? 

Email me to get started.

With love and acknowledgement for all you have experienced, your challenges and potential.

Suzan

Looking For A Hero

Something inside was stirring. I knew there was a way, an answer and was determined to find it! I had my regular yoga practice and was teaching too. Things were better, a lot better… but… As soon as something happened with my son, I was consumed with stress, anxiety, and sleeplessness. There was more to be done!!

I wanted someone with a definitive answer or technique that would make everything fall into place. My quest began. Where was my hero, the magic key to make everything ok? Does that sound familiar ?

My exploration took me to healing therapies, numerology, energy work and more. I trained, had sessions, read, and researched relentlessly.

“The answer lies within ourselves. If we can’t find peace and happiness there, it’s not going to come from the outside.”
Tenzin Palmo

The answer was within – I knew this timeless wisdom… yet I continued to look outside. My mind understood but my subconscious and body were playing out old stories and patterns. And so, my quest for a hero with the answer continued.

A dear friend asked me to co-write an introductory guide to healing modalities. We knew a lot from personal experience and researched more. As we drafted our guide, refined and edited it dawned on me that therapeutic modalities are tools to clear a pathway to our inner wisdom – to the answer within.

The healing journey took me to a point where I could see an issue. On the way I refined my awareness and acceptance. New ways of being, thinking and responding to life developed. I was less restricted by my history and conditioningI noticed it was possible to:

  • Remain calm when triggered.
  • Develop curiosity rather than blame or judge
  • Avoid old reactions/habits.
  • Create new strategies/habits

I continue my healing journey, and this is a life-long commitment. I have the answers within.

✨????✨???? Drum roll – ta dah! ✨????✨????

I am the hero I was looking for.

I call her my Wise Woman. She is ever present, wise, and strong. It feels as if she has been with me since the dawn of time. I trust her implicitly and make time for her with my yoga, reflection and walks in nature.

With her at my side I can maintain healthy boundaries, be compassionate and supportive while prioritising my well-being.

Are you ready to find the answers within ? I will guide and accompany you as you find your inner hero. Email me to get started.

With love and acknowledgement for all you have experienced, your challenges and potential.
Suzan

Nothing is random or a coincidence

Everyone has a story, history, challenges, and trauma. It is unavoidable in this game called life. Wounds may be buried deep or on full display. We develop coping strategies and behaviours to interact with others. Perhaps to make us feel safe, loved, or valued. We may avoid situations, have the same pattern playing out. Sometimes we get stuck, or consumed with heavy emotions – anger, resentment, fear, shame, judgement etc. It may show up as anxiety, depression, pain, stress, addiction etc.

Nothing is random or coincidental. There is a much bigger picture at play, call it fate, destiny, a contract, karma, it really does not matter. This force directs our life events. It is reflected within the body and energy field.

In recent months energies of the planet and beyond have been stirring and shaking things up. Old issues are resurfacing. It may manifest as a dissatisfaction with life situations or desire for meaning and purpose. Nothing is wrong, it is a good sign. Even though uncomfortable it brings choice. An opportunity to continue as before or do something different. A catalyst for change – to start or take the next step of the healing journey.

If you always do what you have always done, you will always get the same results”..
Unknown

I have been on my healing journey for many years. As I unravelled my story, I saw how everything in my life, as well as my parent’s life, has impacted the way I see, act, and relate in the world. First, I blamed myself, then my parents. Gradually a deeper awareness and self-compassion arose. There is a bigger picture which plays out through transgenerational links and cultural/societal conditioning. All affect my world view and how I interact with others. Rather than a clear vision it is as if seeing through glasses with the wrong prescription and dirty lenses!

Everything is here to help you.
Matt Kahn

I now accept what was and what is. (As long as it does not threaten my safety). The negative emotions have subsided. My energy is now available to heal and live my best possible life. I have resources and am curious about my thoughts, feelings, emotions and their link to the web of my family system and bigger picture.

Our presence here means the presence of all our ancestors. They are still alive in us. We practice not just for ourselves, but for everyone. And the stream of life continues.”

Thich Nhat Hanh

All sessions are an opportunity for healing and transformation – yoga, recovery, sharing circles, healing groups, workshops, and private sessions. I create and hold a safe and sacred space. I accept you without judgement. I see and hear you as you are. I support and accompany you to a place where healing happens. Here you connect with your inner wisdom, the part of you beyond time and wounding. This is your true teacher and has the answers you seek. You are your own healer. I am your guide. In this moment …

  • Nothing is personal…
  • Emotions are witnessed and given space to flow …
  • Calmness arises…
  • Insight occurs…
  • Blocked energy frees…
  • New habits develop…
  • Flow and ease increase…

Are you ready to take the next step?

Email me to get started.

With love and acknowledgement for your journey, struggles, and great potential.

Suzan
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Coping with Confusion and Conflicting Views

Several of you have shared experiencing feelings of overwhelm, concerns about conflicting media reports and that you are struggling. It’s ok. There are things YOU can do. The trick is to create all you need in your body and inner world, to make it an oasis of calm, your sanctuary and anchor in an ever changing environment.

When fearful, anxious, or stressed the sympathetic – fight, flight or freeze – response is activated. The pre-frontal cortex/rational brain switches off along with digestion, immune system and more. This is not a good place to be or from which to make decisions. As soon as you notice overwhelm, anxiety etc. take positive steps to activate your parasympathetic, tend and befriend nervous system.

When you feel rattled, triggered, all shook up:
1.    Identify and remove yourself from the trigger – switch off news/social media, walk away, end the call.
2.    Ground/centre – connect with your body, feel your feet, tap, or firmly touch your body, go for a walk, practice yoga.
3.    Use the resources you have practiced in class.

Self-healing
Until your basic survival needs are met they must be your priority. It is important to feel safe, stable, grounded/centred. You then have resources for  healing/development. There is no right or wrong way, no time limit, just your way for now. No pressure, no deadlines.

What works for you?
Start with something that takes you from thinking to feeling/sensing/knowing. It’s your choice: journaling, doodling, drawing, painting, creating, relaxing, meditating, free dancing etc. The activity creates space for energy to flow.

You will probably feel better fairly quickly. Insight may come instantly. You may feel you have made enough progress for now. Or you may like to dive a little deeper with a reflection/enquiry process. Here are a few points to get you started. Don’t be restricted by my words or your thoughts. If you don’t understand it skip, make up your own prompts. Feel/sense/know beyond your conscious mind. Remember answers and insights will come at the appropriate time.

Get curious! 

 

1.    Which emotion/feeling/thought/reaction is active?
2.    Is it a habit or pattern? your usual response?
3.    Sensitives pick up on others energy, Is the emotion/feeling/thought/reaction yours? an ancestral pattern? part of the collective?
4.    If the emotion/feeling/thought/reaction was physical, where is it in your body? what shape or texture? does it have a message? what does it need?
5.    What would be supportive right now? movement, making some noise, hitting a pillow, dancing etc, there are no limits!
6.    If you are somewhere where it is appropriate give yourself what you need or is supportive. It may be necessary to wait until you are alone e.g. if making a lot of noise. In which case make a sacred commitment to yourself to do this as soon as possible.

Your process will free energy and it can start to flow. I always expected a drum roll and fanfare!! But for me its a whisper of knowing beyond any doubt. When you no longer have an adverse reaction to an event or trigger your healing is complete.

As an example, Confusion has been coming up for me. There is so much not being talked about. There are many ethical and moral issues which we don’t discuss due to sensitivities and political correctness, judging and shaming. Now we have added CV!

This is mine, it comes from my childhood when things were not discussed or events happened that were never mentioned. As an energetically sensitive child I was aware of a mismatch in what was said and what I felt. I learned to doubt my inner wisdom and did not feel safe in myself.

The knowledge is empowering. I take that awareness into my healing, interactions and considerations. It has a positive impact on how I relate to others and the world around me.

How about you? Please share at one of the circles, classes or in a personal message.

You cannot change the world, but you can change your SELF. As you develop, you see the world with a clearer vision. In time you may perceive and interact from your inner wisdom. This is the space from which you can research, question and act while staying centred and present. If/when needed you can anchor and retreat to your inner sanctuary. Like meditation it is not a permanent state. Sometimes you may be present from your inner wisdom and other times seeing through your wounding and conditioning. This is where discernment and awareness have a role. And the wonderful thing is you can practice and develop all these skills on your yoga mat.

All classes and groups create a safe space where you can be in tend and befriend mode, aware, curious and self-healing.

I am happy to chat about options if you need support.

If you have a topic you would like me to include in a newsletter drop me an email.

With love and acknowledgement for all you have experienced, your challenges and potential.

Suzan

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Tips for thriving during the holidays

Do you always have great intentions and expectations for family gatherings but end up frustrated, resentful, disappointed? 5 Ways to thrive rather than survive family gatherings:-

  • Be realistic. How can you enjoy the day without having an agenda for success?
  • Simplify, minimise and prepare as much as you can in advance.
  • Make a self-care plan, e.g., when will you rest, be in nature, listen to uplifting music.
  • Take some time to reflect on the positive qualities and/or past positive actions of those who trigger you.
  • To avoid or minimise misunderstandings, flare-ups and arguments take a piece of paper and create 2 columns
    • On the left list or draw challenges triggers and patterns that have come up before or are a strong possibility for your next meeting.
    • On the right list or draw actions, phrases, thoughts to avert a major incident eg
      Smile and count to 10
      Take a long slow exhale
      Leave the room
      Change the topic of conversation
      Remind/reinforce a boundary

If it doesn’t go to plan, be compassionate with yourself. There is a saying – if you think you are enlightened, go spend time with your family! The more realistic you are and the fewer expectations you have, the easier it is.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Feel free to email me and share your greatest challenges and I will create a resource to support you.

6 steps to stay positive

NOW is the time to see the opportunities that 2020 has brought. Yes the evenings are darker and the media is full of doom. I could go on… But we have a choice to focus on the challenges or potential. Proactive actions, thoughts and people lift our spirit and positivity.

Here are some simple steps which will help create good vibes. Aim for success, Choose something that you can do without too much effort. Add, or change as needed.

1.  MAINTAIN/BOOST YOUR MOOD

  • Use a lamp that imitates natural sunlight.
  • Take regular exercise, walk daily, practice yoga/qigong
  • Eat healthily with natural foods*
  • Create a routine – it gives a sense of control

2.  FOCUS ON WHAT’S GOING WELL

  • Every morning and every night take a few minutes to focus on 5 things that you have in your life right now. Food? water? A job/income? A home? Friends? Etc.
  • Each day share with a partner, friend, colleague at least one positive thing about your day.
  • Minimise exposure to negative input, tv, social media etc. choose feel-good programs and connections
  • When you focus on positive events and gratitude you will notice more positive events, people and ideas and your energy will become lighter.

3.  MAKE YOUR HOME A SANCTUARY

You can’t control what’s going on in the world, you can control how your home looks and feels.(children, partners, parents permitting LOL!). Find a space that works for you, perhaps a mobile one is the best option, simply roll out a mat. There are no rules.

  • Clear clutter
  • Rearrange, ornaments, pictures, cushions, furniture as appropriate. Experiment to create a feel-good energy
  • Place positive images and photos where you spend most time
  • Add colours that evoke joy, happiness and positivity for you. This could be with cushions, decor, plants.
  • Open the windows every day to bring in fresh air and energy

4.  PHONE A FRIEND

  • Reach out to a friend, by phone, online, over the fence. Depending how you are feeling, you may choose a positive friend where the conversation is likely to include laughter or someone who is alone and may need support. Receiving support is mood enhancing. Asking how someone else is will take you away from your own suffering for a while.

5.  STOP BEING HARD ON YOURSELF

You are doing the best you can with what you’ve got. Watch out for negative self-talk and judgement. It’s ok to feel however you feel. Accepting this is the first step to change.

6.  MAKE YOUR WELL-BEING A PRIORITY

Invest in yourself. This was a challenge for me in the early days. Now I realise that it must be my highest priority. The purpose of life is to unravel my history and story, bringing me to a place of equilibrium and wholeness. And the best possible way to be of service to others is by sorting myself out! It is a lifelong commitment.

NEXT STEPS 
If you would like support in groups or 1 to 1 sessions, I am here to help. Together things become achievable, change happens. I have come through dark  days and you can too.

Here are 5 key insights I have learned over the years.

☯  Everything that has happened is ok.
☯  We all have our own life path.
☯  Life isn’t meant to be a Disney movie.
☯  Challenges are here to catalyse positive change.
☯  There is no right way or only way.

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If you have any questions please email me or call 07795 517157.

Love Suzan

*You may want to invest in personalised advice with a BANT therapist, such as Jo, who you may know from yoga. consult your GP if you experience SAD, Seasonal affective disorder, chronic depression/anxiety

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From Suffering to Bliss – a yoga journey for self-healing

When I notice I am suffering or struggling, I check in to see what is happening, what I am not getting or what wants to change.

How are you with change and uncertainly?

For many years I resisted and resented undesired change. It was painful and not something I had planned. I did all I could to avoid it! I would get busy, grumpy, or resentful. So many more important things to do!  Or times there were long periods in inertia, resentment and feeling trapped. All completely subconscious.

Finding yoga and spiritual development gave me the tools to reflect and broaden my understanding. I came to understand that there was something bigger at play. My ego is not in control. The pain drove me to change. The result exactly what I needed.  The pain led to change. I was being guided to a better place.

The act of regularly showing up on the mat is a huge opportunity to be present with what is, to feel those things that are so easy to avoid. I found yoga postures a way into reflective practices. They also gave me time to get to know my body, and feel! Some tightness wouldn’t shift no matter how many classes I did. It was in healing and personal development that they moved. I was then able to explore and access deeper wisdom in the yoga classes.

I studied a whole lot and understood at a cognitive level. Over time I was really able to understand. This was when I felt the knowing and understanding physically and at a more subtle, energetic level.

Now I feel and know with my physical body and beyond that change and the suffering it often brings are the one certainty in life! It is not wrong or a punishment, rather a catalyst to take us to a new, more evolved place. The idea is to move through the suffering rather than get stuck. Now it’s not easy or quick but the reality of life.

Life continues to bring me opportunities to leap forward and I find the support and connection of my practice means the process is easier and quicker. And I still notice sub-conscious activities taking me the scenic route! Ultimately it will take as long as is needed.

Yoga for change and reducing suffering

Are you ready for change? Looking for support navigating change? Trying to understand and make sense of uncertainty.

Email me to book a free 20 minute consultation to see how working together can support you.

From Overwhelm to Calm in 5 Minutes

  • Stop feelings of overwhelm, irritation and powerlessness
  • Activate your rest and digest system
  • See clearly
  • Become empowered

Try this 5 minute breathing practice (5 minutes and 22 seconds)

Why?
Focused breathing is powerfully transformative.  It allows the nervous system to settle, the mind and body to calm and harmony to be restored.

When?
Daily – there are 1440 minutes in a day.  If you don’t manage daily do as often as possible.  In an emergency take 3 conscious deep breaths wherever you are.

What people say

“When I am stuck in traffic I use the breathing practice and the stress vanishes”. Lynne

“Dear Suzan   Just to say many thanks for the breathing programme.  My blood pressure readings are down, so no visits to the doctor for 3 months and no increase in medication.  I also feel a lot calmer and don’t get those feelings of panic which were very unpleasant.
yours with many thanks”. Betty E

“I was progressing with my Scuba diver training last weekend was struggling to maintain a level easy breath and as a result using far too much air. So 40 feet below the surface the following day I was thinking about concentrating on my yoga breath whilst trying to master the skills of diving, it worked!” Guy K

“I wanted to let you know I enjoyed the classes and used the breathing techniques throughout the pregnancy and during labour which was a huge help, so thank you” Clare P

If you would like to work deeper with breath and movement I have a range of online yoga groups and private sessions to support your specific needs and availability.  Email me.

Focused breathing will support you whatever is going on in your life – stress, the blues, living with change and uncertainty. Give yourself the gift of 5 minutes a day for a month and let me know the results.  I would love to hear from you.

Please email me  with any feedback or questions.

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In an emergency just 3 conscious breaths will change the way you feel.

The Benefits of Therapeutic Yoga

The appropriate practice of yoga unifies all aspects of the system.  It works on many levels and can be adapted to suit a wide range of needs.  The key is REGULAR practice – The more regularly you practice the sooner you will see results

Physical – improves:

• Posture
• Breath length which helps with lung function
• Balance – helps prevent falls
• Improve or maintain mobility
• Improve or maintain strength and flexibility
• Improve or maintain bone density
• Rehabilitation, can reduce pain including chronic pain, especially effective for reducing low back pain
• Energy levels
• Sense of well-being
• Digestion/elimination

Reduces:
• Heart rate
• Muscle tension
• Flight/flight syndrome
• Blood pressure
• Stillness and pain

Cognitive – improves:

• Concentration
• Focus
• Mental clarity
• Memory
• Staying present
• Dexterity
• Co-ordination
• Reaction times

Emotional – improves

• Mood
• Resilience
• Awareness
• Anger control
• Mind-body connection

Reduces:
• Stress
• Anxiety
• Trauma
• Fear

Social

• Reduces sense of isolation
• Group support
• Make new friends
• Improves confidence

The Complementary & Natural Healthcare Council states that “Yoga can help with a wide range of disorders and stress related problems. Including back and joint issues; breathing disorders; issues during PMS, pregnancy and menopause; emotional issues such as anxiety, depression; injuries, surgery and illness. It may also enhance the quality of life for patients with chronic diseases”.

I am currently working with clients experiencing fibromyalgia, MS, ME, cancer, arthritis, back/neck pain, stress, anxiety, depression, PTSD, IBS, osteoarthritis, & crohns disease

Yoga therapy can be used alongside conventional medicine and other complementary therapies.

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Yoga Therapy

Yoga Therapy – Viniyoga approach

Yoga therapy is a holistic therapy to optimise our health and well being on a physical, energetic, mental/emotional and spiritual level.   Often when thinking of yoga it is the physical aspect and perhaps breathing that comes to mind, however, yoga incorporates a wide variety of tools, as well as postures and breathing these include: diet & life style advice, meditation, relaxation, affirmations and visualisation; personal ritual, mantra, chanting and study of yoga texts which date back thousands of years.

 Yoga postures are adapted to suit individual needs rather than forcing the body into various positions.  This can help develop strength, flexibility, ease and balance in the body; reduce weakness and structural pain according to need.  Moving in time with the breath helps spinal movement; it can ease spinal compression and lengthen the spine increasing range of movement and comfort.  This emphasis on the spine has a positive effect on the nervous system, it helps calm the mind and reduce anxiety which is further developed with seated breathing practices, meditation, chanting etc

What is involved?

Yoga therapy involves taking an active part in your own healing process.  The therapist devises a practice, taking into account physical, energetic, mental, emotional, and spiritual needs interests, lifestyle and living arrangements.  To gain maximum benefit, you are encouraged to practice at home on a regular basis.  It does not need to be as long as a group class, just 20-30 minutes 3 or 4 times a week will be very beneficial.  In acute cases you may be given a shorter practice to do twice daily.

How quickly does it work?

Positive results are often seen within a few weeks, sometimes within days, the key is regular practice. The more regularly you practice the sooner you will see results.

What conditions can Yoga therapy help?

The Complementary & Natural Healthcare Council states that “Yoga can help with a wide range of disorders and stress related problems.  Including back and joint issues; breathing disorders; issues during PMS, pregnancy and menopause; emotional issues such as anxiety, depression; injuries, surgery and illness.  It may also enhance the quality of life for patients with chronic diseases”.

I am currently working with fibromyalgia, MS, ME, COPT. scoliosis, PTSD, cancer, arthritis, back/neck pain, stress, & anxiety.

Yoga therapy can be used along with conventional medicine and other complementary therapies.

Further information

https://www.suzanjoywells.co.uk/2014/01/the-benefits-of-therapeutic-yoga/

 

https://www.suzanjoywells.co.uk/2014/01/yoga-therapy-sessions/

http://www.pranamaya.com/blog/special-features/qa-gary-kraftsow-on-yoga-therapy-and-your-mood/http://www.cnhc.org.uk/

http://www.viniyoga.com/about/what-is-viniyoga

http://www.viniyoga.com/about/what-is-yoga-therapy

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pwK7AAo7VxI

http://www.viniyoga.com/_blog/American_Viniyoga_Institute_-_Blog/post/Viniyoga_for_Low_Back_Pain_New_Study_Results_Released/