Removing the Fear from Freedom

08/04/2021 by Suzan

As restrictions ease here in the UK there is a desire for things to ‘go back to normal’. But what if you go a step further and create the normal that is best for you? What activities, spending and habits are no longer needed or supportive? How does you new daily/weekly/yearly life look and feel now? (Feel free to borrow my magic wand and share your vision:).)

However positive the future may be, a legacy remains. Relationships and jobs have changed or ended, finances have been impacted, sometimes with devastating effects. I know some of you have had a really tough time, others have been feeling sadness, fear and grief which is in the collective consciousness. Even if you are an introvert and lock-in was the best possible experience, everyone is in the same energy field/morphogenic field and impacted by these energies. What you are feeling may be yours or it may be from this field or perhaps a bit of both. It may be childhood and transgenerational issues coming up to be cleared and released.

It is vital that we get to know our fears and feelings. We are intricately connected with one another and with nature. Just as we care for and protect the environment (belatedly I hear some of you cry), it is important to care for one another. Living in fear of, judging, reporting one another evokes memories rooted in the horrors of genocide and wars. It is unthinkable. But it doesn’t have to be this way we can heal.

But how? Just as with all healing. With you, step by step at your own pace, without pressure. By changing you, your world will change.

Take time now to observe and reflect on the past and the future. Notice patterns and repeating behaviours. Perhaps you also notice them in a family member. What is your instinctive response? (If you are experiencing mental health challenges, wait until things have settled). This will help you cope when situations arise. How do you feel about mixing with others? What scenarios would be supportive and/or triggering? Are you mildly, moderately or extremely anxious, stressed and fearful? All of these are normal and if you are feeling fine* now, when the time comes your emotions may be different! It is okay if you are feeling stirred up. Everything is has the potential to help you grow and embody more of your true self.

My sense is that everyone is experiencing a degree of trauma simply by having lived through 2020!

You have tools – the practices from our work together – use them when needed. Something as simple as a long, conscious exhale can make a difference. You can add counting back from 5 as you exhale.

You have connection and community – in all the groups.

You are not alone. I am in the Zoom sanctuary 15 minutes before start time and you are welcome to come along to connect or chat.

We can do this together.

Continue to prioritise well-being physical, emotional/mental and spiritual. The energy forecasts say that things may get a bit bumpy. The good news is that it gives an opportunity to transform quickly. It’s easier than ever before to clear old patterns, programs and behaviours. Simply being aware and giving space to these energies is transformative.

Keep coming to groups or private sessions, join our Signal group and use it for support. Share how you are feeling with others who understand. All sessions are stress, trauma and recovery sensitive and remain in our online yoga sanctuary. Perhaps you would benefit from 2 sessions a week or a private session to develop a home practice. NEW COURSES START 12TH APRIL. Together we will navigate what comes up. Here is a summary:

✨True peace is found on the other side of our challenges. Explore and heal what is holding you back in a safe, loving space in our Connection & Healing Circle for Women – Tuesday – Zoom 8.00-9.00pm Numbers are limited to 7.

✨Reset your nervous system for calm and a deep sense of well-being with YOGA PLUS – beyond the postures – A gentle, nurturing session to retune and align to harmony and peace. Includes sound bath, relaxation, energy balancing and healing. Wednesday 8.00-9.00pm

✨Find and free patterns and emotions held in your body. Ground your healing. A wonderful, holistic experience blending yoga, sharing and energy healing in Yoga for Recovery – Wednesday – 6.00-7.30pm

MINDFUL YOGA CLASSES

✨Mindful Yoga THERAPY & Relaxation – Monday – 6.00-7.15pm
Mostly lying, gentle, therapeutic, and restorative, with time for connections and sharing.

✨Mindful Yoga & Relaxation, Mixed ability – Monday 7.45-9.00 pm
From standing to lying, poses for strength, stretching and releasing physical and emotional tension. Relax, unwind, reconnect with yourself and the group

✨Chair Yoga – Tuesday – 10.30-11.30am
Gentle, safe, and fun – no lying or kneeling

✨Finding Freedom – Tuesday 6.00-7.15pm
Supporting parents of addicts with connection and gentle practices to reset and relax.

Regular practice and spending time in positive energy develops resources and resilience. This helps you relax and see beyond conditioning and patterns as you are guided by your inner wisdom. This is the place of freedom. It is beyond fear.

Email me to book your place or discuss which is best for you.

*FINE = f***d up, insecure and emotional 🙂

Filed Under: Healing, Stress

Yoga as a Healing Tool

12/01/2021 by Suzan

Yoga can help!

Yes, it can help with pretty much anything.

The answers, insight, and meaning lie within you. There is a part that is beyond the tarnishing and challenges of human life. Soul, higher self, eternal flame, infinity spark, are some of the names. You may know another.

When you dedicate your practice – postures, breathing, sound, reflection, ritual, meditation – to yourself you have an opportunity to connect with this part of you, your essence. Allow plenty of time, bring openness, curiosity and non-judgement. Set no agenda or time limit.

Day after day, week after week you deepen your relationship with your SELF. It is the light of your lighthouse, guiding you towards and/or away as needed.

This new found or deepened awareness if the first step and key to the wisdom that lies within. It is unchanging, ever present and the one thing you can trust. First the clutter must be cleared to avoid confusion and patterns and ego conditioning over-riding that quiet voice.

This is a simple process, not necessarily easy. You may confront feelings, memories etc that you have been avoiding.

Make sure you are safe before you explore anything that may re-traumatise you.
Consider whether you would benefit from the support of a therapist/teacher.
Take small accessible steps.

Yoga can empower your healing, recovery and discovery of the root of physical and emotional challenges.

Yoga is all about YOU. It supports you to make peace with your SELF.

To untangle unhealthy relationships. And allow your loved ones to live their own life. Irrespective of our beliefs.

Step One – Self-awareness

Step Two – Self-acceptance

Self-worth and self-love are the fruits.

I am happy to support, guide and empower you on this journey. Please email me to arrange a confidential 20 minute consultation.

Filed Under: Yoga

Coping with Confusion and Conflicting Views

10/01/2021 by Suzan

Several of you have shared experiencing feelings of overwhelm, concerns about conflicting media reports and that you are struggling. It’s ok. There are things YOU can do. The trick is to create all you need in your body and inner world, to make it an oasis of calm, your sanctuary and anchor in an ever changing environment.

When fearful, anxious, or stressed the sympathetic – fight, flight or freeze – response is activated. The pre-frontal cortex/rational brain switches off along with digestion, immune system and more. This is not a good place to be or from which to make decisions. As soon as you notice overwhelm, anxiety etc. take positive steps to activate your parasympathetic, tend and befriend nervous system.

When you feel rattled, triggered, all shook up:
1.   Identify and remove yourself from the trigger – switch off news/social media, walk away, end the call.
2.   Ground/centre – connect with your body, feel your feet, tap, or firmly touch your body, go for a walk, practice yoga.
3.   Use the resources you have practiced in class.

Self-healing
Until your basic survival needs are met they must be your priority. It is important to feel safe, stable, grounded/centred. You then have resources for healing/development. There is no right or wrong way, no time limit, just your way for now. No pressure, no deadlines.

What works for you?
Start with something that takes you from thinking to feeling/sensing/knowing. It’s your choice: journaling, doodling, drawing, painting, creating, relaxing, meditating, free dancing etc. The activity creates space for energy to flow.

You will probably feel better fairly quickly. Insight may come instantly. You may feel you have made enough progress for now. Or you may like to dive a little deeper with a reflection/enquiry process. Here are a few points to get you started. Don’t be restricted by my words or your thoughts. If you don’t understand it skip, make up your own prompts. Feel/sense/know beyond your conscious mind. Remember answers and insights will come at the appropriate time.

Get curious!

1.   Which emotion/feeling/thought/reaction is active?
2.   Is it a habit or pattern? your usual response?
3. Sensitives pick up on others energy, Is the emotion/feeling/thought/reaction yours? an ancestral pattern? part of the collective?
4.   If the emotion/feeling/thought/reaction was physical, where is it in your body? what shape or texture? does it have a message? what does it need?
5.   What would be supportive right now? movement, making some noise, hitting a pillow, dancing etc, there are no limits!
6.   If you are somewhere where it is appropriate give yourself what you need or is supportive. It may be necessary to wait until you are alone e.g. if making a lot of noise. In which case make a sacred commitment to yourself to do this as soon as possible.

Your process will free energy and it can start to flow. I always expected a drum roll and fanfare!! But for me its a whisper of knowing beyond any doubt. When you no longer have an adverse reaction to an event or trigger your healing is complete.

As an example, Confusion has been coming up for me. There is so much not being talked about. There are many ethical and moral issues which we don’t discuss due to sensitivities and political correctness, judging and shaming. Now we have added CV!

This is mine, it comes from my childhood when things were not discussed or events happened that were never mentioned. As an energetically sensitive child I was aware of a mismatch in what was said and what I felt. I learned to doubt my inner wisdom and did not feel safe in myself.

The knowledge is empowering. I take that awareness into my healing, interactions and considerations. It has a positive impact on how I relate to others and the world around me.

How about you? Please share at one of the circles, classes or in a personal message.

You cannot change the world, but you can change your SELF. As you develop, you see the world with a clearer vision. In time you may perceive and interact from your inner wisdom. This is the space from which you can research, question and act while staying centred and present. If/when needed you can anchor and retreat to your inner sanctuary. Like meditation it is not a permanent state. Sometimes you may be present from your inner wisdom and other times seeing through your wounding and conditioning. This is where discernment and awareness have a role. And the wonderful thing is you can practice and develop all these skills on your yoga mat.

All classes and groups create a safe space where you can be in tend and befriend mode, aware, curious and self-healing.

I am happy to chat about options if you need support.

If you have a topic you would like me to include in a newsletter drop me an email.

With love and acknowledgement for all you have experienced, your challenges and potential.

Suzan

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Filed Under: Anxiety, Stress

Navigating life, fears and tiers!

23/10/2020 by Suzan

What the BLEEP happened? and what /when is the next? We need one another more than ever and I am here to support you in any way I can.

Introducing a weekly magical, powerful online group for connection, sharing, and transformation. Together everything looks different. Challenges become lighter and new possibilities appear. Uniting we create a safe container of positive, loving energy where you can be yourself, receive, release and re-connect.

•             Lift away of any negative, heavy energies
•             Return/maintain balance and peace
•             Feel calm, centred, peaceful and joyful
•             Connect with like-minded individuals

Even though we are not in person we can have the same and possibly deeper connection. Magic happens in these circles. I see it every time.

“You did an incredible job of bringing us all together and the energy was so lovely, I never thought I would feel so comfortable to share with strangers as I was.”

“Thank you for last night’s circle. I have woken joyful and ready for today. Much love ❤”.

“I had such a lovely sleep after the circle and feel much better”.
“The energy is magical, powerful and renews my faith on many levels”.

“I am so thankful for you our little family. I can feel your positive energy in myself. I know you work very hard”.

“The sharing circle is amazing. Once I voiced what I had been holding in, something shifted”.

“I started the circle with a migraine following a really rubbish week, about an hour afterwards my migraine lifted, I felt nourished and supported and slept well. So much so that during a meeting this morning people commented on how well I looked and had I lost weight over the last few days!”.

“I felt empowered to be able to speak my true feelings without being judged.”

“The group renews my faith on many levels”.

This is a 4-week intensive to support during this time of uncertain tiers and limitations.
Tuesdays 8-9pm
November 3, 10, 17, 24

Donations £20 per session or £60 for all 4. For those in genuine financial issue please donate what you can.

The group will be maximum 7 people.

Email me to book your place.

Love Suzan
07795 517157

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6 steps to stay positive

01/10/2020 by Suzan

NOW is the time to see the opportunities that 2020 has brought. Yes the evenings are darker and the media is full of doom. I could go on… But we have a choice to focus on the challenges or potential. Proactive actions, thoughts and people lift our spirit and positivity.

Here are some simple steps which will help create good vibes. Aim for success, Choose something that you can do without too much effort. Add, or change as needed.

1. MAINTAIN/BOOST YOUR MOOD

Use a lamp that imitates natural sunlight.
Take regular exercise, walk daily, practice yoga/qigong
Eat healthily with natural foods*
Create a routine – it gives a sense of control

2. FOCUS ON WHAT’S GOING WELL

Every morning and every night take a few minutes to focus on 5 things that you have in your life right now. Food? water? A job/income? A home? Friends? Etc.
Each day share with a partner, friend, colleague at least one positive thing about your day.
Minimise exposure to negative input, tv, social media etc. choose feel-good programs and connections
When you focus on positive events and gratitude you will notice more positive events, people and ideas and your energy will become lighter.

3. MAKE YOUR HOME A SANCTUARY

You can’t control what’s going on in the world, you can control how your home looks and feels.(children, partners, parents permitting LOL!). Find a space that works for you, perhaps a mobile one is the best option, simply roll out a mat. There are no rules.

Clear clutter
Rearrange, ornaments, pictures, cushions, furniture as appropriate. Experiment to create a feel-good energy
Place positive images and photos where you spend most time
Add colours that evoke joy, happiness and positivity for you. This could be with cushions, decor, plants.
Open the windows every day to bring in fresh air and energy

4. PHONE A FRIEND

Reach out to a friend, by phone, online, over the fence. Depending how you are feeling, you may choose a positive friend where the conversation is likely to include laughter or someone who is alone and may need support. Receiving support is mood enhancing. Asking how someone else is will take you away from your own suffering for a while.

5. STOP BEING HARD ON YOURSELF

You are doing the best you can with what you’ve got. Watch out for negative self-talk and judgement. It’s ok to feel however you feel. Accepting this is the first step to change.

6. MAKE YOUR WELL-BEING A PRIORITY

Invest in yourself. This was a challenge for me in the early days. Now I realise that it must be my highest priority. The purpose of life is to unravel my history and story, bringing me to a place of equilibrium and wholeness. And the best possible way to be of service to others is by sorting myself out! It is a lifelong commitment.

NEXT STEPS
If you would like support in groups or 1 to 1 sessions, I am here to help. Together things become achievable, change happens. I have come through dark days and you can too.

Here are 5 key insights I have learned over the years.

☯ Everything that has happened is ok.
☯ We all have our own life path.
☯ Life isn’t meant to be a Disney movie.
☯ Challenges are here to catalyse positive change.
☯ There is no right way or only way.

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✨✨ JOIN ME ONLINE FOR SUPPORT OF BODY, MIND & SOUL ✨✨

LIVE, IN-PERSON WEEKLY ONLINE GROUPS
MONDAY EVENINGS YOGA
TUESDAY MORNING CHAIR YOGA
WEDNESDAY EVENINGS MEDITATION/HEALING/SOUND/RELAXATION

1 TO 1 sessions week days/occasional weekends.

If you have any questions please email me or call 07795 517157.

Love Suzan

*You may want to invest in personalised advice with a BANT therapist, such as Jo, who you may know from yoga. consult your GP if you experience SAD, Seasonal affective disorder, chronic depression/anxiety

**If you will benefit from the classes, are committed to attend regularly and have a genuine financial issue please donate what you can – this will be confidential. Please respect this policy and keep for those who really need it.

Filed Under: Anxiety, Fatigue, Healing, Pain, Stress

From Suffering to Bliss – a yoga journey for self-healing

05/09/2020 by Suzan

When I notice I am suffering or struggling, I check in to see what is happening, what I am not getting or what wants to change.

How are you with change and uncertainly?

For many years I resisted and resented undesired change. It was painful and not something I had planned. I did all I could to avoid it! I would get busy, grumpy, or resentful. So many more important things to do! Or times there were long periods in inertia, resentment and feeling trapped. All completely subconscious.

Finding yoga and spiritual development gave me the tools to reflect and broaden my understanding. I came to understand that there was something bigger at play. My ego is not in control. The pain drove me to change. The result exactly what I needed. The pain led to change. I was being guided to a better place.

The act of regularly showing up on the mat is a huge opportunity to be present with what is, to feel those things that are so easy to avoid. I found yoga postures a way into reflective practices. They also gave me time to get to know my body, and feel! Some tightness wouldn’t shift no matter how many classes I did. It was in healing and personal development that they moved. I was then able to explore and access deeper wisdom in the yoga classes.

I studied a whole lot and understood at a cognitive level. Over time I was really able to understand. This was when I felt the knowing and understanding physically and at a more subtle, energetic level.

Now I feel and know with my physical body and beyond that change and the suffering it often brings are the one certainty in life! It is not wrong or a punishment, rather a catalyst to take us to a new, more evolved place. The idea is to move through the suffering rather than get stuck. Now it’s not easy or quick but the reality of life.

Life continues to bring me opportunities to leap forward and I find the support and connection of my practice means the process is easier and quicker. And I still notice sub-conscious activities taking me the scenic route! Ultimately it will take as long as is needed.

Yoga for change and reducing suffering

Are you ready for change? Looking for support navigating change? Trying to understand and make sense of uncertainty.

Email me to book a free 20 minute consultation to see how working together can support you.

Filed Under: Anxiety, Fatigue, Healing, Pain, Stress, Yoga

The Art of Relaxation

09/05/2020 by Suzan

Relaxation is a valuable self-care tool. It is a NECESSITY if we want to maintain or return to optimal well-being.

Whatever is happening in the world you can create and maintain stability in your little world – room or home, and in your inner world – your body, mind and emotions.

✔Create a routine with little activities or breaks to look forward to.
✔Draw, paint or buy pictures, photos, or ornaments that evoke stability and/or joy
✔Focus on something positive – resume or take up a new hobby
✔Grow plants or vegetables
✔Reduce screen time and choose positive content.

These will reduce anxiety levels and help the nervous system settle into relaxation.

Here is a simple process to help relaxation response become active, homeostasis to return and create a sense of well-being.

Lie with legs bent or sit
Notice how your body feels, get really curious – your body holds much wisdom, what comes into your awareness
Watch your breathing, is it fast, slow, steady, erratic, etc
Focus on your exhale
Gradually increase the length of the exhale while maintaining a comfortable inhale remains (up to twice the length of the inhale)
It is natural for the mind to wander, when you notice this use loving awareness to return your focus to the exhale
Avoid judgement, criticism or blaming a trigger person or event
Check in with your body regularly inviting any tense areas to relax
Stay for 5 minutes, longer if you have time especially if feeling anxious/agitated.
Make regular time in your schedule for this practice and take mini 3 breath practices as often as possible during the day.

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Filed Under: Misc, Stress

5 Ways to help you stay calm, sane and connected!

14/04/2020 by Suzan

1. Routine
Create a daily routine, plan times to start and finish activities. This will give you some predictability, control/power and help keep you grounded in the present rather than with thoughts of what might, should, or should not happen. New habits can take a while to become established and you may benefit from the support of a friend to help create your time table and keep you on track, celebrate success, and support you through any challenges.

2. Connection
Connection is especially important if you live alone. Plan time every day to speak with a colleague, friend, family member or support group. Online communication with visual as well as audio gives a deeper connection than phoning, Facetime, Whatsapp, Skype, Zoom etc are all free and pretty good. I have been having a monthly online lunch date with a friend for a couple of years and it’s great! Join me at one of the tea break or tea & chat sessions (see above).

3. Nature
Where possible spend some time daily in nature. Walking barefoot is a my favourite. If you can’t get out at all or as often as you would like, bring nature into your home with flowers, plants, perhaps try sprouting, planting a container or window box. Open windows and doors to clear the air regularly.

4. Exercise and diet
Exercise regularly, daily if possible, anything to move your body, feel the strength you have. Walk, dance or your guessed it do some yoga :). My Yoga classes are now online and the new term starts 20th April. If you would like to book and/or to receive a short yoga practice to do on your own email me.

Eat nutritious food, as fresh and unprocessed as possible. Treats are fine, too much sugar and starchy foods may feel good initially but are followed by an energy dip and put extra strain on the body to process and digest, so be as moderate as you can. If you deviate from the plan be kind to yourself and get back on track as soon as you can.

5. Create a Sanctuary
You may need you to get creative, but it is possible to create a harmonious space to connect with yourself, your calm centre and intuition. Be realistic, how much space do you have? For most of us a dedicated room is not realistic but if you have one great. If not how about a temporary space where you can place a chair, mat or blanket when you use it.?

If you are living in a busy household, choose times to visit your sanctuary when you are least likely to be disturbed. Negotiate quiet time with others or consider headphones with white noise.

Make an intention for this space to be your sanctuary – when you set it up and every time go there. The energy will build and you will associate it with positive qualities.

Choose an object to evoke a the quality of sacred, whatever that means for you – a photo of a deity, or teacher – a crystal -something from nature – anything of special significance. These may need to be portable and put in place every time you use the space or you may have a shelf, window ledge, a small table etc.

I have something to represent the elements, water, fire/candle, air/feather and earth/crystal. You may like to focus on the senses and play gentle music, use aromas, a soft cushion. Be guided by what you have and your intuition.

I would love to see a picture of your sanctuary, please post it on my Facebook page or email me.

Yoga Healing Aylesbury

Filed Under: Stress, Yoga

Yoga – a Path to Peace & Self-awareness

29/02/2020 by Suzan

Yoga is a path to self-discovery, the ancient wisdom of sages including Patanjali are as relevant today as thousands of years ago. Yoga offers a wealth of philosophy and psychology which dates back thousands of years. Postures as we know them today are a very recent addition. Yoga was taught individually, to men only. It was a way of life. The student would have to work hard to be accepted by his teacher. Training would involve living with the teacher, often for many years.

Krishnamacharya started teaching yoga to women. In 1937 Indra Devi became known as “The First Lady of Yoga.” when she was admitted into his school. Now yoga is often associated with complex acrobatic postures, often with young, very bendy and attractive women. However the postures are only one of many tools to journey to a state of yoga. They can in fact become a distraction when that is our only focus. It is important to maintain strength in the body, especially the spine and a flexibility. From a yoga perspective this is to support our meditation practice.

A mindful yoga practice supports the body and creates a space to become aware of what really going on. Underneath the busy mind, and aches and pains there is often an emotional issue. Awareness can be enough to start or complete moving this energy from your system.

Y – YOU – the only person who you can change is yourself – you are responsible only for your reaction.

O – OBSERVE – your thoughts, actions, and reactions – are there patterns you have outgrown or are not serving you? Are you ready for change?

G – GRATITUDE – spend time focusing on all you are grateful for, the more you do this the more you will find and the more positive and calm you will feel.

A – ACCEPTANCE – allow whatever is happening to be okay and remember that change is the only certainty. Much angst and energy is spent on things over which we have not control.

Is it time for you to take the next step? Please email me if you would like support or guidance.

Filed Under: Healing, Yoga

Kick-Starting Your Healing

14/01/2020 by Suzan

I am doing so well then all of a sudden a wave of overwhelm envelops me. Does that happen to you? or are ready to start making changes?

After all the years of healing, I can still get buffeted by the winds of life, and the ego starts digging in her heels to keep me small and what she considers safe! It gets easier and the wobbles less high and yet out of the blue something off the scale happens! Who would have imagined a pandemic, some believe will wipe out huge numbers and others that virus’s don’t exist! There is also the alien theory :). Life has changed as we know it and we no longer have rights that were assumed set in stone.

It is so easy for us to forget our learning and our innate healing abilities.

Here are six simple steps which can rapidly improve how you see yourself and your world:

Willingness to Change
Many experience fear of change as an insurmountable obstacle. It is not necessary to leap off the cliff. One step at a time is sufficient—one step can change your focus and direction. Just be willing to change.
Self-Awareness
Self-awareness is developing awareness of thoughts, feelings, emotions, and behaviors behind your actions and reactions. It is receiving and noticing input both—external and internal—from body, mind, and senses. The process is ongoing.
Acceptance
The next step is accepting and owning all parts of you, including those that are hidden, disliked, or ignored.
Acceptance is simple and free; it can be done anytime and anywhere. It is allowing whatever is happening to unfold in its own time, irrespective of whether it is pleasant or unpleasant, convenient or inconvenient. It does not mean that you agree, disagree, want, or reject anything. Rather, you simply observe and let it be okay.
Remember—acceptance does not apply in a situation where your safety and security are at risk.

The act of acceptance removes the need for a situation to be other than it is in the present moment. Resisting what is happening or holding on to something that happened in the past, is the cause of a huge amount of pain and anxiety. This release allows and facilitates the flow of energy and movement, taking you to another, more comfortable, place.
However challenging or beyond comprehension it may appear, everything happens to help you grow and evolve into the best possible version of yourself.
Forgiveness
Forgiveness for self and others, whether victim or perpetrator, cuts ties to the past, freeing oppressive energy. The result is new possibilities for health and well-being. Again, it doesn’t imply agreement with or validation of a behavior or event. Many find forgiveness frees them to move forward with life.
Gratitude
Gratitude focuses on everything in a thankful way. Understanding and accepting that all experience is for our growth makes gratitude much easier. It may be helpful to start with something small: I am grateful for the air I breathe, food to eat, etc. The more you practice, the more there is to be grateful for, and the more refined gratitude becomes. Every event has been part of shaping you into the person you are, even the less positive experiences. A deepening appreciation increases your sense of well-being and peace of mind.
There are many ways to practice gratitude—meditation, prayer, ritual, verbal expression, and written expression (gratitude diary or journal). Experiment to find the most effective method for you.
Love
Love is honoring and appreciating all that you are, your uniqueness, your gifts, and your challenges—past and present. This is the place of real peace. It is only when we accept and truly love all aspects of the self (warts and all) that we can see clearly, and truly love another. The more we focus on self-love, the higher our vibration becomes, and we start to radiate this energy of love. It ripples out into home, family, workplace, etc., drawing to us more of the same (Law of Attraction).

Please note: It is not possible to change others; however, by changing ourselves, the world around us changes. It will be for your best interest, which may not be apparent immediately but become so with hindsight.

“Self-love is the key to transforming your personal world and the world at large”.

Taken from Searching… A Peek into the Invisible World of Energy and Healing by Donna Linn & Suzan J Wells.